When thinking about everything that has gone wrong in your life have you ever played the blame game? Playing the blame game is a game that only leads to disappointment. Pointing your finger at someone because you think it was their fault you failed will only mean one thing. You're pointing out all of the shortcomings of yourself.
This mindset coaching article will provide you with some insight on what I did to self-sabotage my way out of my job right after college. In all reality, it was the best thing that ever happened to me. By playing the blame game nobody wins. I'll explain what that means and hopefully, you won't make the same mistakes.
Before I stopped playing the blame game I was working at an inpatient treatment center and was getting frustrated that I had to keep a patio door open. Little did I know that door would be the end of my employment at this center. The door was not the problem, it was my mindset. Because I was getting comfortable it ruined the fulfillment of my purpose.
I was an assistant that was outgrowing the position. Because I created something from nothing I thought I deserved some title out of it. Doing the work is all part of the process. Better yet, loving the work is what it's all about. If you don't love the work, then you've already lost. The door I referred to earlier was to the patio of the Therapeutic Exercise Center. It leads out to the smoking section. I smelled the second-hand smoke and didn't like it.
Telling myself that it is a big deal that I smell a hint of second-hand smoke I started telling my boss to keep it shut. He did not like that. The door didn't need to be shut. Because I created a problem that wasn't really a problem it ended up me resigning from the position. I didn't have to, but I did anyway.
It took me three years to realize that I sabotaged that job. It's ok that I did and I forgave myself for doing so. I'm actually grateful for the way it all went down. Going through each experience you can look at it two ways. Either you keep doing the same thing or you learn from it. After you learn from it you then increase your awareness and don't make the same mistakes any longer.
The first thing I noticed about not playing the blame game anymore was that I am in way more control of my life. Taking responsibility for my thoughts, what I say and what I do starts to get fun. Because then I start to create my own life from a place of purpose.
Since the entire “awakening” of my awareness, I've managed to only sabotage two more jobs. I've always said I'm a late bloomer, but at least I bloom. I didn't sabotage them in a bad way. Therefore they were two more amazing experiences. They ended because I said they were going to end.
Think about it this way…
Why Stop Playing The Blame Game?
Playing the blame game will always lead you to disappointment when blaming others. When you blame yourself and own it, you learn from it. Because you are learning you then realize that you're the problem and the solution. It's like when you plan to go to lunch with a friend and you didn't really want to go. When you start to talk about it and say how it will go with detail. Like, the person is going to talk about themselves and only talk about shit that you don't even like and the food will probably suck.
You're right. All of those things happened because you told yourself that will happen. You went there emotionally first and it came to your external world.
The same thing happened to me with the jobs and everything else in my life, for that matter.
The best part of not playing the blame game anymore is I get to create a life that I want to live. Not from a place of lack, but from a place of purpose. With these mindset coaching articles, I get to give away what I've learned and Vow to teach those how to do it for themselves.
So the next time you're dreading something, instantly change your mindset about it. Then think out loud about the outcome you want to happen. That's what Kyle Cease has taught me about his Evolving Out Loud thesis. I haven't done one for a while, but I call it Talk Therapy on my YouTube Channel.
Stop playing the blame game and go get your WOD done. Because you've made it this far I trust that you're feeling so much better about yourself. It means the world to me that I hear from you. Shoot me an email at [email protected] and let me in on what's going on in your world.
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Playing The Blame Game | Workout Of The Day (WOD) #269
Warm-Up – 5 Minutes Cardio
- Push Back Push-Up – 10-15 Reps
- Table Top Dips – 10-15 Reps
- Supermans – 20-40 Reps
- Scissor Kicks – 40 reps Total
Cool Down – 5 Deep Breaths In Down Dog Pose
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