Have you ever noticed that your parents, or whoever raised you, have a major impact on your life? Our parents are the voices in our heads. Because the opinions that our parents had impacted us on a deeper level that we didn't even know about. This mindset coaching article will reveal how much of our analytical mind is actually our parents point of view.
I'll reference back to a paragraph from my last article…
Opinions are like assholes, we all have them. Giving someone your opinion doesn't make it right, it's your opinion. We say that opinion based on what benefits us. Right or wrong it's just how most people are wired. Because of our parents or whoever raised you, that's where you get that inner voice from. Unless you do the work to change that voice, it will always be the same.
Everything I remember from my childhood has made me who I am today. Good, bad, or otherwise. I'm grateful for my childhood becuase my parents did an amazing job. I've been told my entire life by them that I can do anything I put my mind to. They are the first ones, however, to question every single move that I made in my early years. While that seems like a dig at them, it's not.
Parents only want the best for their children. At least that's what my belief is. Sometimes that's not always the case and I feel bad for people who have parents like that. Parenting out of fear is what leads children to repeat the same mistakes parents made. We can only measure what we lose when taking risks, not what we will gain.
Because my parents questioned everything I did, it made me plan every move before I told them my plans.
That has helped me develop my “Concrete Mind”. I use to only be able to think about one step at a time and think there was only one outcome. My parents helped me realize that there are many outcomes. It has created a sense of faith that provides me the guidance needed to follow my heart.
When we go through life listening to that voice in our heads that tells us not to do something because it's too dangerous or scary, that's our parent's voices in our heads. Our parents voices are in our head because we allow them to be there. We care way too much what they think. Why? Because we love them so much that we don't want to disappoint them. Right? For whatever your reason I'm here to tell you that living for them is wrong.
If you're 100% happy with your life, then I'm wrong. If you're not, then I'm right. Whether you're living for your parents, girlfriend, boyfriend, aunt, uncle, grandma, grandpa or whoever, you live for you. Do what your heart or your soul says to do. Forget about your parents' voices. You have one shot at your life. It sounds corny and cliche, but it's true.
Until you take full responsibility for your life, you will never break free. That's the very reason our parents are the voices in our heads. If your parents give you money or provide for you somehow that will hold you back forever. Give yourself permission to fail. That's where the fun happens. I'm wrong about many things and own up to it every time. Failing has become my favorite pastime. The voice in my head has become very quiet lately and my heart has turned up its volume.
The question is this…
Our Parents Are The Voices In Our Heads And How Do I Get Them Out?
Daily practice of what you want to in your life. Get very clear with that. Try many things and do only what you enjoy. Happiness is greater than currency. For me, I journal, workout, meditate, talk with people who make me feel happy, and write about my life. I do this EVERY SINGLE DAY. Our parents are the voices in our heads, but they don't have to be.
Let me tell you this though, be ready for your life to fall apart. Because it has to in order to come together in the way you want it to. Things will get worse before they get better. They don't have to, but it seems like 99% of people have it happen like that. That's what happened to me. I have had many high paying jobs and none of them have provided me with full fulfillment. It's only when I started working on myself and working for myself I started to break free from my parents' voices.
Let this article be the moment you start your new life. Become the person you want to be and own it. Forget about what everyone around you thinks. Their opinion doesn't matter. Learn from your mistakes. Have the depth of faith in yourself that everything that happens to you is a learning moment and fail forward. How's that for some corny advice? LOL
It's all true and they are words I live by daily. All of my coaching articles come from consistent inner work and empathy. If I haven't been through it, I don't speak to it. Or if I do speak to it, I conceptualize it as if I were going through it. Empathy is what drives me. That and regret.
Do yourself a favor and realize that our parents are the voices in our heads when we start out living our real lives. As a result of that realization, you'll see that it's time to shut them up. What benefits them doesn't necessarily benefit you. Because it's your life. And if they truly mean “You Can Do Whatever You Put Your Mind To”, then they will eventually come around.
Get out there and do you. What makes you happy? I mean truly happy? I'd love to hear about it. Email me at [email protected] with the subject line HAPPINESS and hit me up. It would mean the world to me.
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Our Parents Are The Voices In Our Heads | Workout Of The Day (WOD) #278
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- Cross Punch Squat
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