I use to think I could save the world, but after starting this journey of 365 WODs I soon realized I needed to let people get to their lowest of lows before I can truly help them. Letting someone get to their lowest lows seems very cold, but it's a necessary part of any change.
Before we moved to Roseau Minnesota I use to drive from Mound to South Minneapolis. It was anywhere from 45 minutes to an hour and a half one way. It was ok because I found something to occupy that time. I use to record myself talking about various topics and I called it THE Exercise Physiology Show and also called it Talk Therapy.
It didn't really take off as I thought it would, but really it helped me become the person I am today with all my videos. A person could look at that adventure as a failure, but I look at it as a learning opportunity. Learning what video looks like from Gary Vaynerchuk, I tried to keep up with him.
I soon realized that he has been doing videos for way longer than I have. To this day I am still learning and love to explore what people respond to. Nothing fascinates me more than the habits of human beings. Letting someone get to their lowest lows means watching those habits and when you've been paying attention to those habits as long as I have you know what's going to happen next, but can't save people from their own crap.
My experience is just that, mine. The entire process of changing is subjective and the “experts” have tried again and again to duplicate that system with all these theories and models. My coaching tactics are basically suggestions. When people come to me for help, they are surprised at how much I don't do. It's simple, what outcome do you want? How much are you willing to change to make that happen?
If you feel like you're giving something up in order to be that person, then you're not ready yet.
Letting someone get to their lowest lows and standing back while they tell everyone that they are doing it when they're not, is part of the process. We first look for affirmations from others in the external world. Some look to social media, like Facebook, Instagram or SnapChat. They start to use that as a motivator. Posting pictures of themselves, hoping someone will like comment or share their journey.
They go strong at first but after a certain amount of time the novelty wears off. When on one is praising them for their “hard work” they give up. The motivation to keep going doesn't come from a like or a comment. It comes from within. That deep down feeling of just doing it because you have to. Doing it because if you didn't you would cease to exist and die. That's why I create daily WODs because if I didn't then I would no longer have a purpose to learn new movements and challenge myself.
The truth about change is this: Nobody Gives A Crap About YOUR Change. They don't want to hear about what you're doing. They want to hear about what you've done. Too many people talk about what they're doing without proof. Having that proof is a shift in today's world. Actually, it's always been that way, but with the internet taking so many strides in the last 20 years, it's easier to cut through the BS.
Nobody Gives A Crap About YOUR Change
After driving to that job for a couple years I hit my lowest of lows. I started to change my focus from being far away from family to being as close as possible. I wrote an entire blog post about that. Go Here if you want to read about that. It was the start of the best series of blog posts I've ever written.
Deciding what you want to happen and sticking to that is nebulous to some people because as human beings we crave options. Only until you start to become familiar with your true self you realize that there aren't many options. There's just one…
Become And Express Your True Self On A Daily Basis
Letting someone get to their lowest lows is the way to do that. Robbing someone of doing that will only prolong that process. I've learned to sit back and let people do what they do until they truly are ready and knowing WHEN they are ready is a skill in itself. One of the best ways to do that is to have a massive amount of self-awareness. The amount of self-awareness is also subjective but a few names of people who have that level of self-awareness are Gary Vaynerchuk, Tony Robins, Opera Winfrey and Dwane The Rock Johnson.
In conclusion, letting someone get to their lowest lows can take time and that's ok. Simply commit to one round of my WODs a day. Obsess about yourself in a way that comes from your heart. Don't go to bed until you get that one round done and be proud of it. Letting someone get to their lowest of lows is the most important part of the process because there's nowhere else to go but up.
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Workout Of The Day (WOD) #245 | Letting Someone Get To Their Lowest Lows
Warm-Up- 5 Minutes Cardio (At Least)
- Plank Rotations – 30-60 Reps
- Full Body Extensions (Total Body Extensions) – 30-60 Reps
- Inch Worm – 15-20 Reps
- Side Crunches – 15-20 Reps Each Side
Cooldown – 5 Deep Breaths In Down Dog Pose
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