Im good at behavior. I can point out behavioral changes without making people feel like crap. What I do is ask questions about their daily life and let them do the talking. I gather information very well by asking and listening HOW they answer.
Sprinkled throughout this post are questions that people ask me when talking about what behavior's and habits to create to be true to themselves.
What they don't know is they are the solution to their own problem. I'm very good about helping them realize that. As soon as they realize that they can change their behavior they are empowered.
When I talk with my clients I ask questions about what's going on in their life and am analyzing what their response is coming from a place of change. If they answer it like they “always” do, then I know there hasn't been much change happening.
Im good at behavior and very confident when I say that.
It's a constant habitual change. Every moment of every day is an opportunity to change behavior. The problem with behavior is that it takes effort on the client's end and all I do is provide the space for that effort.
What Am I Good At Doing?
Providing the space for the change is massive because feeling safe is something people don't have sometimes. Once a person feels safe they can let go and move on. Each time they feel safer about the changes they're making they move closer to their true self.
To identify “good” or “bad” behavior means to become familiar with yourself. No one can tell you a certain behavior is good or bad except for you. If you're happy right where you're at, then you can keep being just the way you are. If you're unhappy about where you're at in life and are trying the same things expecting a different outcome, then you're going to drive yourself nuts. (Another great tool is to become familiar with the Stages Of Change)
The definition of insanity is trying to do something by doing the same thing the same way and expecting a different outcome. Something, even a small change, has to change. With that change will come a different outcome.
If you're going “back on” a diet and have never really thought about what it would take to “change” your diet, then you're only going to gain back all the weight you lose when you “go off” your diet.
Becoming familiar with myself has taken time, work, consistency, determination, and practice. Im good at behavior because of all those things.
So how my mind works…
It's one big “IF/THEN” statement…
Like a computer program…
For every action is a reaction. Behavior works the exact same way, except it has a little more permanent identity to it. When a person is faced with something they go to their analytical mind and think of what they have done or gone through in the past to overcome it.
For example, when if your child just won't listen you try what parenting tactics have worked in the past, like yelling or threatening to take something away. Where did that behavior start? You've either learned that reaction or have been through it. How do you change it? Would you like to change it? Is there a better way? What if you don't know how to change it?
Those are all questions that come mind when thinking about change.
It simply starts with becoming familiar with your actions and reactions. When you start to catch yourself before the yelling happens and before you threaten to take something away the realization of why your child isn't listening may come to the surface. Could it be because all they want is your undivided attention? Could it be because all they want is for you to acknowledge them for a few minutes so they can express how they feel?
There's no right way…
There is no wrong way…
There's only your way.
The way you change is specific only to you. Becoming familiar with that way provides an opportunity for you to find that way. That's why I create the WODs each day. It provides an opportunity to change both your mind and your body through movement.
Thinking that some movements are impossible come from habits and behavior. When thinking about performing push-ups, sit-ups and squats people automatically dismiss the idea. Just because they haven't done them in so long they convince themselves into thinking they are no longer able to perform the movement.
Changing the belief is the same as changing the behavior. How do you change something that you don't know how to change? Or where to start? Our minds freeze up because it is too broad. Given specific things to change will help answer those questions.
With each push-up, sit-up, and squat you will become familiar with what feels good or doesn't. Sometimes we think that movement happens to be painful to be beneficial. Coming from a person who suffers from chronic pain, I do everything I can to not be in pain.
In conclusion, It all starts with behavior. What do your actions say about your behavior? Do you react in a certain way that comes from habit? Are there habits that you'd like to change? That's what I do best. I help those people realize that their reactions are not a definition of who they are and they can change. With each WOD completed the more familiar you'll become both physically and mentally of your capabilities as a person.
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WOD #234 Im Good At Behavior
Warm Up – 5 Minutes Cardio (At LEAST)
- Squat To High Knees – 20 Reps Total
- Bridges – 20 Reps
- Prone Heel Grab – 40 Reps Total (Children Optional LOL)
- Front High Kicks – 40 Reps Total
Cool Down – 5 Deep Breath In Down Dog Pose
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