After talking with many people about what it took for them to get and stay healthy. I found a common denominator that will shock you. It will also help you with having the tough conversation with the person who matters most to you. This mindset coaching article comes from a place of empathy because I've been in a place where I felt I wasn't being supported with what I was doing. However, I really was in a way different capacity.
There are many people out there with the best of intentions to try to get healthy. Only to find out that the person who means the most to them actually sabotages those intentions unintentionally. When you start to change and live differently there isn't always rainbows and unicorns around to keep everyone happy. Having the tough conversation with your wife, husband, mother, father, aunt, uncle, or whoever means most to you in your life is very important. Putting all out there and communicating your intentions, plans and goals is a great way to stop the sabotage.
One thing to be aware of though is that sometimes those people don't care about your goals. If that's the case, then you have one choice. Become your biggest fan. Only focus on what you can control and forget about the rest. Your partner's happiness is not your responsibility. Above all your happiness is. Having the tough conversation about what your needs with your health is important because then you get to be completely honest and free.
The other thing to be aware of is some people don't deserve to know your intentions, plans, and goals. You don't have to tell every Tom, Dick, and Harry about your life plans. Be very picky who to choose to tell your innermost vulnerable pieces with. For example, I'm blessed with a wife that supports my craziness. She sees my happiness and fully supports it. However, I didn't always see it like that.
When I first started the 365 WOD Journey and Battle WODs my children were very little and I made the crappy videos in the morning before taking them to daycare. My wife had already left for work so she had no idea I was doing this. It wasn't until about WOD 100 or so she caught wind of it. I wanted nothing to do with having the tough conversation with her about my goals with my WODs. Because I had no idea what I was doing with them yet.
The first thing I noticed about myself by not having that tough conversation was that I was very insecure about recording in front of my wife. Sounding dumb in front of her was not on the top of my list of fun things to do. But really it was the one person who wouldn't have cared. I had to get over that real quick because she started working from home. When we moved to Northern Minnesota in 2016 I finally needed to have that tough conversation with her.
She was more than willing to leave the house while I recorded the WOD for that day. The funny thing is, after having the tough conversation I didn't need her to leave. I simply needed my ego to get out of the way and believe that my wife believes in me. People tell me all the time that they've changed their life because of me. Total strangers tell me what I do has helped them lose so much weight. And I couldn't record a video in front of my wife?! How messed up does that sound?!
Sometimes it's the people closest to us that hurt us the most. They just care so much that they don't want to get hurt. But there will come a time that you're going to have to forget that and become your number one fan. You have to look into that mirror (which I have many times) and tell yourself “I Love You and Accept You Into My Life.”
To this day my wife supports me in ways that I don't even think about. Let me give you an example. While I'm personal training clients she is making sure the kids get their homework done, making supper and doing the laundry. Can you think of any other ways she can support me? I am truly blessed with all that she does for my children and I. Without having the tough conversation, you're going to keep telling yourself the same story and become very resentful.
That's the road I was heading down. It's not a fun road at all. So my offer for you today is to stop telling yourself the current story and start having the tough conversation with the person you care about most. Get your WOD done and feel amazing after it. No matter who you think is supporting you or not, you are doing it. That's something to be proud of.
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Having The Tough Conversation | Workout Of The Day (WOD) #282
1-6 Rounds | 6, 5, 4, 3, 2, 3, 4, 5, 6
Warm-Up – 5 Minutes Cardio
- Squat Calf Raise
- Wall Sit Knee Raise
- Full Body Extension
- Kneel Down Stand Up
Cool Down – 5 Deep Breaths In Down Dog Pose
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